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"This is your life, joys and sorrow mingled, one succeeding the other." - Ven Catherine McAuley, Foundress of the Mercy charism.

"That’s why I sing, that’s why I shout, that’s why I let my feelings out."

- “Waiting”, written and performed by Jessica Hannah Rogers, winner of the Junior section of the Caritas Aotearoa Sing Out for Justice songwriting competition.

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#Mercy  #Shaping Mercy into the Future  #That's why I sing - that's why I shout  #Jessica Hannah Rogers  #Caritas  #Aotearoa 

This is in response to this post.

Gentle reminder that providing sex workers with a safe legal space and all the appropriate protections to provide their services to their clients is all very well and good (and it is in terms of safety and respect) but it STILL encourages the idea that…catcalling, perving, touching up people you are not in a relationship with, talking dirty to someone who is not your other half, being made to feel like you’re the most important person in the world because you have a beautiful person sexually gratifying you, feeling like you have ownership of someone else’s body…are good and healthy and perfectly viable responses to other human beings, providing you’ve paid for the pleasure of doing so.

Newsflash.

They’re not.

We should not be encouraging the idea that, even for a short space of paid-for time, someone else’s body is ours for the taking and diminishing.

We should not be encouraging the idea that, even for a short space of paid-for time, it is appropriate to cat call, jeer, perve, and generally dehumanise another human being. (the sex worker may not feel dehumanised by their work, but if I, as a service user, believe that it is ok and good to cat call, jeer and perve on someone else, then I am dehumanising them, even if they aren’t aware of this. And the more I do this, the more I will believe it is appropriate, and the more likely I am to dehumanise others, including non sex workers.)

We should not be encouraging the idea that, even for a short space of paid-for time, it is appropriate to act like the very worst aspects of all that feminism stands against.

It is all very well saying that it is a job, a service, just like being a counsellor, an actor, a waiter or so on. But it’s not. Because counsellors, actors, waiters… provide a service that promotes the general wellbeing and improvement of all society one way or another. (Waiting tables, although it is a physical service in exchange for payment, is not a profession that inherently teaches disrespect or diminishment of a human being down to a body/bodily experience. And while acting provides a mental experience, it is generally meant to be an experience that causes us to think and question the world and go back into the world as better people, more respectful of those around us as whole, integrated human beings.) Sex work does not promote the general well being of society. It teaches that it is ok to objectify people as long as you’ve paid for the privilege. It validates (acting on a(n often inappropriate)) desire for someone who is not actually available. It validates the concept of (often male) ownership of a(n often female) body. There is nothing feminist about that. There is nothing respectful about that.

And how long before the idea that it’s ok as long as you’ve paid becomes “it’s ok” full stop? Because we’re not talking about an enriching, positive service such as counselling here - a service which aids the service user to become more whole, more respectful of self and others… We’re talking about a service that teaches the service user that the human being providing the service is little more than a body to perform sexually gratifying acts for me. The changes made in me at this point are negative, not positive. Instead of learning that the world does not actually revolve around me, and how to healthily interact with the world, and how to healthily interact sexually with my partner, I learn that it’s right that those sexual/bodily acts should be done for me. That I should like those acts to be done for me. That I deserve those acts to be done for me. Actually, why should I pay for that? I deserve it, don’t I? So I catcall on the streets. And I leer when I’m in pubs. And I rant about “cockblockers” because I deserve that body over there. And so on. Not only do I dehumanise the sex worker during the paid performance, but I start to dehumanise the people I see on the club/street/work/home who in someway remind me of the sex worker.

The resentment and anger that sex workers experience from some clients is the basis for the violence and abuse that they frequently suffer - but it is also the basis for the violence and abuse that many many many non-sex worker women and men suffer too. Now, there are a minority of sex workers who genuinely go into the work freely because they want to, (and not because poverty pressurises them to do so - and if poverty is the cause of entering sex work, it is not a free choice) - and so they have made the choice to go into a profession that has a higher rate of violence and abuse towards them than others. They have freely made a choice to enter a profession with a higher danger rate - like fire-brigade operatives, for example. But all the people who experience abuse and violence that stems from this SAME resultant resentment and anger… they didn’t make that choice.

We didn’t make that choice.

And women and men the world over, who didn’t make that choice, are paying the price of sex work feeding the belief that some individuals have the right to experience sexual ownership of another person’s body.

Not to mention the huge, huge, HUGE numbers of women, men and children who do not have a choice about entering sex work, and still have to pay the price of that resentment and anger. They, just like sex workers who made the choice to become sex workers, suffer violence and abuse at the hands of the same people. But they didn’t choose that life. How is that fair, or right? How can anyone defend that?

Don’t get me wrong; I firmly believe that sex workers should be afforded all protection and should be treated with the same respect inherent to their human dignity as any human being should be treated. But do not try and tell me that sex work is a good thing for humanity. Because it does not encourage the service users to respect the inherent dignity of the sex workers, or of any other human beings. It encourages treating ALL human beings as objects to be used and discarded. And there is nothing good, or right, or dignified about that.

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#Danielle gets angry  #In this ce the minority - those who freely choose to enter sex work - have the loudest voices  #the majority don't often have the freedom to speak out - that's why we hear less from them  #And when they do escape and do speak out they are ridiculed and put down by the minority who want their own wishes respected but will not...  #And this affects us all  #especially women 

The interior decor of the Ettal Abbey, located in in Bavaria, Germany

The interior decor of the Ettal Abbey, located in in Bavaria, Germany

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New Reality TV Show Follows Five Young Women as They Consider Becoming Nuns →

fiatluxetfactaestlux:

audwardway:

If those girls aren’t caught crying in the corner hugging a bottle of wine, they are NOT discerning right.

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IF I HAVE TO CUT PROMOS FOR THIS I WILL FLIP TABLES AND DIE.

reblogging for both comments.

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contrariansoul:

Genuine hope is not blind optimism. It is hope with open eyes, which sees the suffering and yet believes in the future.

~ Jürgen Moltmann

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#hope 
Prayer Request

joyful-serenity:

Please pray for the repose of the souls of two Sisters killed in a car accident this morning.

Please also pray for their immediate Community, their family and friends, their wider Religious Community and those to whom they have ministered.

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Their names have been made public on news stations now, so I am updating:- Please pray for the happy repose of Sister Marie Duddy and Sister Frances Forde, both well loved and well known in their Community, local area and wider Mercy Community. Please pray, too, for all who are touched by their deaths, especially family and Sisters. (I had met Sr Marie briefly, + have a lovely, kind note from her - she heard I enjoyed a book she wrote from a mutual friend and promptly wrote to tell me how glad she was. I was so touched at the time that I kept the note inside the book. Now I will treasure it all the more.)
— 13 hours ago with 48 notes
#Prayer request  #Catholic  #Religious Sisters  #mourning 
"Women invented all the core technologies that made civilization possible. This isn’t some feminist myth; it’s what modern anthropologists believe. Women are thought to have invented pottery, basketmaking, weaving, textiles, horticulture, and agriculture. That’s right: without women’s inventions, we wouldn’t be able to carry things or store things or tie things up or go fishing or hunt with nets or haft a blade or wear clothes or grow our food or live in permanent settlements. Suck on that.

Women have continued to be involved in the creation and advancement of civilization throughout history, whether you know it or not. Pick anything—a technology, a science, an art form, a school of thought—and start digging into the background. You’ll find women there, I guarantee, making critical contributions and often inventing the damn shit in the first place.

Women have made those contributions in spite of astonishing hurdles. Hurdles like not being allowed to go to school. Hurdles like not being allowed to work in an office with men, or join a professional society, or walk on the street, or own property. Example: look up Lise Meitner some time. When she was born in 1878 it was illegal in Austria for girls to attend school past the age of 13. Once the laws finally eased up and she could go to university, she wasn’t allowed to study with the men. Then she got a research post but wasn’t allowed to use the lab on account of girl cooties. Her whole life was like this, but she still managed to discover nuclear fucking fission. Then the Nobel committee gave the prize to her junior male colleague and ignored her existence completely.

Men in all patriarchal civilizations, including ours, have worked to downplay or deny women’s creative contributions. That’s because patriarchy is founded on the belief that women are breeding stock and men are the only people who can think. The easiest way for men to erase women’s contributions is to simply ignore that they happened. Because when you ignore something, it gets forgotten. People in the next generation don’t hear about it, and so they grow up thinking that no women have ever done anything. And then when women in their generation do stuff, they think ‘it’s a fluke, never happened before in the history of the world, ignore it.’ And so they ignore it, and it gets forgotten. And on and on and on. The New York Times article is a perfect illustration of this principle in action.

Finally, and this is important: even those women who weren’t inventors and intellectuals, even those women who really did spend all their lives doing stereotypical “women’s work”—they also built this world. The mundane labor of life is what makes everything else possible. Before you can have scientists and engineers and artists, you have to have a whole bunch of people (and it’s usually women) to hold down the basics: to grow and harvest and cook the food, to provide clothes and shelter, to fetch the firewood and the water, to nurture and nurse, to tend and teach. Every single scrap of civilized inventing and dreaming and thinking rides on top of that foundation. Never forget that."

Violet Socks, Patriarchy in Action: The New York Times Rewrites History (via o1sv)

Reblogging again for that paragraph because that is the part we forget the most.

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#women  #history 

m-l-m-h:

Whore’s Glory (Dir. Michael Glawogger, 2011)

this documentary is so good its on netflix everyone should watch it 

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#whore's glory  #women 

Dara Keo was just 12 when her mother sold her virginity for $500 to a wealthy, powerful Cambodian man. The virgin trade in Cambodia thrives due to a cultural myth that sex with a virgin can help men stay young and prevent illness — and also because no one has ever been convicted of purchasing virgins in Cambodia’s courts. Rattana Chey, 21, learned that her mother was planning to sell her virginity six years ago, and sought help from Riverkids, an organization that provides refuge, schooling and vocational training for children. The organization bribed Rattana’s family with rice in exchange for not selling her. She also learned sewing, making her the family breadwinner, and also allowing her to saver her two younger sisters. “My mother wants to try to sell their virginity, but I will never let that happen,” Rattana says. “Thanks to my earning ability, I am the most powerful person in our family now. I am determined to break the pattern.”Learn more via Marie Claire.  

Dara Keo was just 12 when her mother sold her virginity for $500 to a wealthy, powerful Cambodian man. The virgin trade in Cambodia thrives due to a cultural myth that sex with a virgin can help men stay young and prevent illness — and also because no one has ever been convicted of purchasing virgins in Cambodia’s courts. 

Rattana Chey, 21, learned that her mother was planning to sell her virginity six years ago, and sought help from Riverkids, an organization that provides refuge, schooling and vocational training for children. The organization bribed Rattana’s family with rice in exchange for not selling her. She also learned sewing, making her the family breadwinner, and also allowing her to saver her two younger sisters. “My mother wants to try to sell their virginity, but I will never let that happen,” Rattana says. “Thanks to my earning ability, I am the most powerful person in our family now. I am determined to break the pattern.”

Learn more via Marie Claire.  

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#riverkids  #sexual slavery  #prostitution  #child abuse 
Prayer Request

Please pray for the repose of the souls of two Sisters killed in a car accident this morning.

Please also pray for their immediate Community, their family and friends, their wider Religious Community and those to whom they have ministered.

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— 20 hours ago with 48 notes
#A comfortable cup of tea  #Prayer Request  #Catholic  #Religious Sisters  #My Sisters  #Mourning 
mothercatherine:

This is the stained glass window that our Tumblr avatar is taken from. It was created by Conrad Schmitt, for St John the Baptist Church in Costa Mesa, California, to celebrate 50 years of Mercy.  Note the detail of the “comfortable cup of tea”, inspired by Catherine’s last request to her Sisters; the Irish countryside denoting the heritage of the Mercy Sisters who served in SJB, and the cat at Mother’s feet - a special tribute to Sister Mary Vianney Ennis, the Mercy Sister who has served the Parish school the longest (she loves cats!).

"The window contains the keys, symbol of the Sacrament of Reconciliation, placed in Mother Catherine’s window because of her great devotion to the mystery of God’s Mercy. They symbolize the power granted by Christ to His apostles (and through them to all priests) to bind and loose sins in the Sacrament of Reconciliation (cf. Jn. 20:22-23). The keys face away from each other to symbolize binding and loosing of sins. The cross-shaped design in the keys reminds us that it is the Lord’s Cross that unlocks the fountain of God’s mercy in our lives. These keys also happen to resemble the actual keys of Mother Catherine on display at her first foundation in Baggot Street, Dublin.

The shield in the lower panel is that of the Order of the Knights of the Holy Sepulcher to which the donor of the windows belongs. The shield bears the typical “Jerusalem Cross” composed of five different Greek crosses, a large one in the middle for the wound in the heart of Christ and two at the top and bottom for the wounds in Our Lord’s hands and feet. All are in the color of blood.”

(latter two paragraphs from the St John the Baptist Church blog)

mothercatherine:

This is the stained glass window that our Tumblr avatar is taken from. It was created by Conrad Schmitt, for St John the Baptist Church in Costa Mesa, California, to celebrate 50 years of Mercy. Note the detail of the “comfortable cup of tea”, inspired by Catherine’s last request to her Sisters; the Irish countryside denoting the heritage of the Mercy Sisters who served in SJB, and the cat at Mother’s feet - a special tribute to Sister Mary Vianney Ennis, the Mercy Sister who has served the Parish school the longest (she loves cats!).

"The window contains the keys, symbol of the Sacrament of Reconciliation, placed in Mother Catherine’s window because of her great devotion to the mystery of God’s Mercy. They symbolize the power granted by Christ to His apostles (and through them to all priests) to bind and loose sins in the Sacrament of Reconciliation (cf. Jn. 20:22-23). The keys face away from each other to symbolize binding and loosing of sins. The cross-shaped design in the keys reminds us that it is the Lord’s Cross that unlocks the fountain of God’s mercy in our lives. These keys also happen to resemble the actual keys of Mother Catherine on display at her first foundation in Baggot Street, Dublin.

The shield in the lower panel is that of the Order of the Knights of the Holy Sepulcher to which the donor of the windows belongs. The shield bears the typical “Jerusalem Cross” composed of five different Greek crosses, a large one in the middle for the wound in the heart of Christ and two at the top and bottom for the wounds in Our Lord’s hands and feet. All are in the color of blood.”

(latter two paragraphs from the St John the Baptist Church blog)

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#catherine mcauley  #catholic  #nun  #religious sisters  #stained glass 

…As the BBC reports that our September has been the driest on record since records began, 114 years ago, we thought “there’s a Spooks quote for that!”

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#Colin Wells  #Harry Pearce  #Spooks  #MI5  #Autumn 
faineemae:

eggplantlit:

carnivaloftherandom:

mresundance:

reckonedrightly:

indypendenthistory:

On Sep 13, 1944, a princess from India lay dead at Dachau concentration camp. She had been tortured by the Nazis, then shot in the head. Her name was Noor Inayat Khan. The Germans knew her only as Nora Baker, a British spy who had gone into occupied France using the code name Madeline. She carried her transmitter from safe house to safe house with the Gestapo trailing her, providing communications for her Resistance unit.

Oh my God, yes. Let’s talk about Noor Inayat Khan.
Wireless operators in France had a life expectancy of six weeks. Noor was actively transmitting for over three times as long.
While she was in France, every other wireless operator in her network was slowly picked off until she was the last radio link between London and Paris. It was “the most dangerous and important post in France”.  
She was offered a way back to Britain and refused.
In fact, in her transmissions to London, she once said that she was having the time of her life, and thanked them for giving her the opportunity to do this.
She was captured by the Gestapo, but never gave up: she made three attempt escapes. One involved asking to take a bath, insisting on being allowed to close the door to preserve her modesty, and then clambering onto the roof of the Gestapo HQ in Paris.
Her last word before being shot was, “Liberté!”

The term BAMF was coined for such persons. 

Her entire life, and her mother’s life as well, are FASCINATING. A Royal, Muslim, Anglo-Indian woman in WWII… Could we have a sweeping FACTUAL movie please. Like now?

Yet another story I would like to read.

You guys! There IS A MOVIE!
Enemy of the Reich: The Noor Inayat Khan Story 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X2nM12xbAUM

faineemae:

eggplantlit:

carnivaloftherandom:

mresundance:

reckonedrightly:

indypendenthistory:

On Sep 13, 1944, a princess from India lay dead at Dachau concentration camp. She had been tortured by the Nazis, then shot in the head. Her name was Noor Inayat Khan. The Germans knew her only as Nora Baker, a British spy who had gone into occupied France using the code name Madeline. She carried her transmitter from safe house to safe house with the Gestapo trailing her, providing communications for her Resistance unit.

Oh my God, yes. Let’s talk about Noor Inayat Khan.

  • Wireless operators in France had a life expectancy of six weeks. Noor was actively transmitting for over three times as long.
  • While she was in France, every other wireless operator in her network was slowly picked off until she was the last radio link between London and Paris. It was “the most dangerous and important post in France”.  
  • She was offered a way back to Britain and refused.
  • In fact, in her transmissions to London, she once said that she was having the time of her life, and thanked them for giving her the opportunity to do this.
  • She was captured by the Gestapo, but never gave up: she made three attempt escapes. One involved asking to take a bath, insisting on being allowed to close the door to preserve her modesty, and then clambering onto the roof of the Gestapo HQ in Paris.
  • Her last word before being shot was, “Liberté!”

The term BAMF was coined for such persons. 

Her entire life, and her mother’s life as well, are FASCINATING. A Royal, Muslim, Anglo-Indian woman in WWII… Could we have a sweeping FACTUAL movie please. Like now?

Yet another story I would like to read.

You guys! There IS A MOVIE!

Enemy of the Reich: The Noor Inayat Khan Story 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X2nM12xbAUM

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#Noor Inayat Khan  #Nora Baker  #Spy  #Super cool lady